HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

Human relationships is a complex subject in which many parameters are involved. A human being is actually a very complex entity.Human psychology and perception is also subject to changes. Aristotle has said years ago that man is a social animal. Human beings live in a society and hence all are mutually dependent on one another in some way. So it is not possible to avoid relationships and it is also necessary to have a mutually beneficial relationship with fellow human beings in the society. Unfortunately it is not possible to maintain such good relationship with everyone because of the inherent human qualities such as animosity, jealousy, hatred, racism, communalism etc. Even among family and friends hatred, jealousy, bullying and ego clashes are quite common in today's world. One of the main causes of disputes is greed for material wealth. Generally people who are honest, kind and considerate towards others will be able to maintain good relationships. In practical life it is actually difficult even for a good person to maintain an amicable relationship with everyone because other people may have some animosity, jealousy, hatred or greed. It is a well-known fact that this is not an ideal world. You cannot expect a dog to not bite you because you do not bite a dog. Some people will always be unpleasant, unkind and spiteful even if you are good to them because it is their inherent nature and it is not possible to maintain a good relationship with them at all. Such people are always nasty because of the underlying tendencies such as jealousy, racism or communalism. Even in matrimonial relationships there is much discord nowadays and many marriages end up in divorce. In some matrimonial relationships or even in friendships both parties may be good people but still they have conflict and they eventually part ways because there is no mental compatibility between them and they are not like-minded. It is futile to try to maintain a good relationship with a nasty person and it would be same as trying to straighten a dog's tail. Hence the only strategy for having good friendships, relationships and partnerships is to choose the right people carefully. It is good to choose friends or partners who are unselfish, gentle, kind and honest because friendships with such people will be pleasant and beneficial. It is also necessary to choose friends or acquaintances who have something in common. Usually relationships between like-minded people with common goals or hobbies will only be long-lasting and mutually beneficial. God bless!

LUCK VS HARD WORK

Everyone wants to be lucky. Everyone wants to get things quickly without much effort or hard work. For example people who win a jackpot or get some other windfall gains or a huge inheritance suddenly are considered to be very lucky. These people also become victims of jealousy or hatred because of their sudden luck. Some of these people will not even be able to hold on to their suddenly acquired money and they lose it frivolously due to wrong decisions or they may even get cheated by their own friends or relatives. So sudden luck is not exactly a blessing in most of the cases. Some people may get a fantastic job opportunity or a chance to act in movies due to sudden luck but they need the abilities and knowledge and skills to hold on to that fantastic opportunity.  Without skills and qualifications it is not possible to take advantage of any lucky opportunity and for such people the benefits of the lucky opportunity will wither away soon. Hence diligence, persistence and perseverance are also essential for success in addition to luck. Anyone would be very successful in life if he or she has both diligence and also luck. Actually luck is like a catalyst which will give huge success for some people only and not for everyone. The key to success is to be at the right place at the right time which also means that one has to be somewhat lucky in order to be successful. But one of the subtle truths in life is that a very diligent person will definitely be moderately successful even if he is not lucky. On the contrary a lucky person without any diligence or discipline will never be able to hold on to his luck and he may lose whatever he gained by sudden luck. In life luck is not reliable but hard work always pays off for anyone. Luck is also non-repeatable, uncontrollable and unpredictable. Hence 75 percent of success in life depends on planning, preparation, diligence and discipline and only 25 percent of success depends on luck!